Other people may just observe your journey, but they are never on your journey. They are on their journeys.
When we put it in very practical words, it means that whenever we experience something that is an effect of what we do – it’s for us; when it comes from other people – it’s for them. It’s their experience, that we allowed to happen, that we have only helped to occur.
Understanding this creates a calm place from which you can see the essence of every potentially sad or disturbing situation.
If, for example, you came to the yard to spend some time with your horse – you came there to experience something together with your horse. And that is it. You came to learn something new about yourself, to become a better person, and to have a lovely time with your horse.
But there are also other people, including trainers, colleagues, audience, friends and people who you don’t know, who came to experience their things.
And all of you came to experience and learn something about themselves.
So, whenever you hear a harsh and unfair comment about yourself – quietly thank the person who said it, and let it go. Because this person is clearly in a place of not accepting even himself/herself. There is no love, support and acceptance for others, if there are no such emotions for oneself.
So, instead of feeling anger or sadness – feel compassion towards this person.
Hug this person in your heart and thank him or her for showing you how being in such a place looks like from the outside. And let it go.
Because this comment was never about you, it was about this person and the pain in which he or she lives every single day.
When you are very calm, you can see this subtle nuance and you can grow into a better person thanks to it. It can fill you up with even greater love and with even greater trust.
But to be able to see it, you need to be very calm first.