The problems built around horses being obsessed with grass, are based in 100% on lack of communication between people and horses, and tensions in people that have arisen around this subject. These tensions don’t allow people to act with flexibility and openness: people either start to fight with the horse to forbid him access to grass, becoming more and more aggressive and disconnected, OR they give up and just observe how their horse eats grass, feeling more and more powerless, frustrated and just sad..
Flexibility and Openness allows you to see that the reason why your horse is obsessed about the grass is that HE DOESN’T BELIEVE YOU THAT YOU WILL ALLOW HIM TO HAVE IT, and he feels how tensed you are about it. He doesn’t understand the source of your tension, he only feels that when you are like that it’s impossible for the two of you to connect and do anything together, so he chooses the grass.
When you, in Calmness, regain connection with yourself, and when you in your heart tell yourself “GRASS IS AS IMPORTANT FOR ME as it is for my horse” & “WALKING TOGETHER can be as important for my horse as it is for me” – you will see how the situation changes, and how open your horse becomes for walking with you — simply because he can connect with you in this action — and for eating grass — simply because he sees that his desire is as important for you as it is for him.
In such a situation there is no reason to become obsessed about neither: eating grass nor walking together, simply because they both will be fulfilled in a second, in a minute, in a quarter of an hour… they will :) It’s like waiting for Christmas, with time you understand that Christmas time WILL COME, and you start to enjoy the time BEFORE CHRISTMAS as as much as the CHRISTMAS EVE alone :)
It was a huge pleasure of mine today to guide to such a connection my groom Zuza, and to see how she was positively amused with Duro melting down like a snowflake on a hand as Zuza’s Calmness increased, and to see him suggesting leaving the grass on his own – simply because being TOGETHER and walking TOGETHER was as pleasurable as eating grass.
Be Calm, build up COMMUNICATION, see one another beyond the training techniques and just enjoy time together. There are no tricks here, you simply have to start to COMMUNICATE and be together, really together.
