If you want to grow in your Life with your horses, or generally in your Life, you need first to connect with yourself here and now. You need to connect with your past, present and future. If you neglect your past or present, you cannot change the future.
Discovering the Connection
The connection is always discovered, never built.
When you are present and connected with your body, you can DISCOVER that your past was exactly how it should be. You will discover that your past and present support you in your path towards growth and development.
When you are present, and discover connection with yourself, you can take the next step. You can discover that the connection with your horse that you dreamed of was always there. You can discover that you and your horse were always connected and that your horse was teaching you.
Outgrowing horsemanship methods
The growth is not about abandoning tools or methods. The growth is about using your full potential with bigger and bigger awareness.
If you used whip and pressure yesterday, you may think that if you abandon your whip and pressure today, you will grow.
And accordingly, if yo used treats and clicker yesterday, you may think that if you abandon your treats and clicker today, you will grow.
NO
You will make your growth impossible. You will become a person who “abandoned whip and pressure“, you will become a person who “stopped giving treats to the horse“, but not a person who has truly changed.
You will make this whip, pressure and treats the permanent part of your Life and Horsemanship. Now this whip, clicker and treats are not physically present, but your whole training is about “I am without a whip”, “I am without a pressure”, and “I am without treats”.
When you judge and neglect something, you make it permanent in your Life.Â
Your Life becomes a proof. But not of your growth, but of your fight with yourself to prove that you can be successful “without” something: whip, clicker, treats, flags, pressure, etc.
You create very big division in your Life for Good and Bad. You divide people and methods into Good and Bad. And this division becomes the supporter of your judgements and aggression. When you divide and judge you cannot connect. When you divide and judge, you start to live in your imagination. It starts from your imagination about yourself.
The whip was there to show you that you have the Inner Whip all the time with you. The whip was there to help you. The whip was there to direct you toward your Inner Whip. The whip was there to help you find the tension that creates this Inner Whip and let this tension go.
Now it will stay.
Infinity
The Nature has Infinite power, Infinite Intelligence, and Infinite Love and wants you to grow and change.
You will find your abandoned whip in other situations. Your aggression will HAVE TO go out.
It will have to go out to help you.
Your weak decision based on limited awareness to not use the whip, cannot hold. You can try to use your “willpower”, but such thing does not exist. It is only the made-up word.
Allow yourself to train your horse without a whip
You can ALLOW yourself to use other methods. You can ALLOW yourself to TRY different things.
You can do our BodyMarc System and clean yourself from tensions.
And one that you will see that the whip is not important. You will see that you can use a whip, and you can do things without a whip. You will see that this was never THE WHIP that made the training THIS or THAT, but it was always YOU.
You will see that whip is OK, and the whip WAS ALWAYS OK.
You will see that the treats are OK, and that the treats WERE ALWAYS OK.
You will see that this is not important WHAT YOU DO, but WHO DOES IT.
You will see that you do not need to LIMIT yourself.
You will see that you CAN BE OPEN for all OPTIONS.
You will see that the more you grow, even more OPTIONS open for you.
Growth
Growth is always toward more possibilities.
Growth always brings more power.
Growth brings understanding.
True Growth always UNITES.
Upcoming Workshops:
B.A.S.E. Kick-Start Training: Starting 15th September 2016
Upcoming Clinics:
2nd-4th September: SWEDEN
23-25th September: NORWAY
7th-9th October: THE NETHERLANDS